Single Parenthood

"Mom I got a new I'd card from school." Another one ?? I was wondering. My kids got their new id card at the start of this session already. On looking closely I saw the one major difference. The guardian name had changed from the father's name to the mother's name. This was the beginning of a new chapter in my life as a single parent since I lost my husband this Jan.

Officially now my kids are completely my responsibility. I dont have anyone to blame but myself if I fail to fulfill any of the responsibilities combined as a father and as a mother. If I scold them for any wrongdoing, I have to be the loving arms to hug them back. If they falter in any decision, I have to be the support they can fall back on. I am here for all your needs and wants.

I want to tell my kids that above all that parents can financially provide for, it is the teachings and discipline that we as parents provide to our children that are truly valuable. These are the building blocks of their foundation to stand on their own feet. 

A few lessons that I learnt from this recent event in our life is what I would want my children to learn from. 

First of all, take good care of your health. Your mouth may lie, but your body will speak out the truth one day. If you throw your tiffins away and say that I had it, your body will speak out. If you dont do your daily excercises and say you did, your body will speak out. If you have certain bad habits or addictions and lie that you don't, your body will speak out. So the lesson learned is to be true to yourself. You can lie to the world, but not yourself. 

Second important lesson is education. Most kids dont feel education is important since they have rich parents to back them. They can pay huge donations to get them through all admissions they wish for. But the fact is that your education remains with you even after everything else is lost. And no one can steal that from you. Today after 15 yrs when I am searching for a job to financially support my kids, all they ask for is my qualifications. So the lesson learnt is that educate yourself for gaining knowledge and get certified for whatever you are learning, because fact remains that people trust your certificate first and then your knowledge, until you are the best at what you do.

Third important lesson is managing your finances. Learn the value of money, from where is comes and where it goes. Before spending learn to earn. Learn the art of growing money . Learn to save for the future, but never stop living by not spending when you have to. Money definitely can't buy happiness, but it is an essential part of our survival in this society. Today more than our mental state and stability, people are worried about our financial stability. So no running from the fact that you need to earn well to live well. 

Fourth important lesson is learning the values of being in a family. Today the greatest support I got is from my family and dear friends, who are no less than family. A shoulder to cry on is more important than anything during your tough times. Build relationships, learn to sacrifice, learn to empathize, learn to love unconditionally, learn to contribute and support. This is your support system which can help you survive until you can take care of yourself. Always be helpful and kind to everyone you meet, because the world is round and you are sure to meet them again, so better to keep a smile on your face always. 

Fifth and most important, learn is to make happiness a part of your life. People love to be around happy people. Ask for help if you need. Never shy from saying that I dont know. Keep open to learning from everyone. Nurture your inner qualities. Dont blindly follow the crowd. Be courageous to stand alone if you know you are right. Believe in yourself. Be trustworthy. Above all be a human with humility. 

Be grateful to Almighty for this life and achieve your true purpose of being here.

 

I am ready for single Parenthood with your support. Let's embark on this journey together. 

Lots of love to my kids.