Love Or Horoscope Matching?

What is more important in a love marriage – Love or Horoscope matching?

I had met a girl in my second year who was weak, frail and dejected to enter the college life as she had a bad past with regards to her drop after high school for becoming a doctor. We became friends and shared everything one person does with another if you start liking each other’s company. She started liking me and I found someone with whom I could share my feelings as she would listen to it peacefully like it was her story. With time, we had developed a blind trust in each other and love started developing but I was very reluctant to enter any relationship as those responsibilities which I had, made me feel that all this will distract me. But 6 months of reluctance at the end wasn’t strong in front of the love I had developed for her. It was 29^th Nov. 2013 when we entered into a serious relationship by promising each other that we will be a different couple who will achieve our dreams together by helping each other and grow with our love getting stronger each day. Like every relationship it had all ups and downs but it was a great experience all together, our parents too had accepted us happily as we were of the same caste and one of my relatives was a link between our families. I did achieve what all I had dreamt with her.

Everything was settled in our case, we loved each other, we had seen our tough time together and how we both supported each other throughout, the dreams we had built together, the moments we wanted to live together in future and those small-small memories in vast space of 5 years.

We had spent 5 years together facing each other’s emotions, pains, struggle, frustration, love, anger, fights, issues…I don’t remember any other emotion which was left untouched.

I did cherish all these feelings, because I loved her and considered her the best I could get as she was worth living together whole life. She had seen me growing with time and facing those hardships. My family had already accepted her with fully open arms and so did her family. It was a smooth track for us and many people did envy that and got jealous. We looked great together.

Her parents went to Priest/ Pandit to get our Horoscopes matched and that was the turning point of our relationship. Everything was destroyed after that. According to the priest, this marriage was not possible, as our horoscopes didn’t match and some or the other kind of dosh was said to be there which would lead to an unhappy married life. So after all this was said, to recheck it, my family, too went to different priests, but all said same things in different ways. So, now I had lost her permanently, her family changed suddenly, the family who had taken my finger measurement for ring didn’t want to see my face now as if it was my fault that our horoscope didn’t match.

The thing which still hurts me is that the girl with whom I had spent my last 5 years together wasn’t even willing to be with me as she was so weak to even say that our love is strong enough to deal with all odds that come in our lives.

But for me, I never saw any future apart from being with her and having a decent life.

I don’t know how suddenly people change their faces, how one can say that “my daughter is strong, you too forget and move on” … “We can’t spoil coming 50 years on the basis of last 5 years”…. “Stop disturbing my daughter” …. “We don’t want to meet you anymore as everything got ended on phone”…. It’s so hurting that I really can’t describe. The family who was so loving suddenly changed their thoughts about me.

I tried to convince my family that my love was strong enough to deal all the problem which will come in our way and will find some or the other solutions to stay together, over this my family at least supported me and called her family, but they had already decided that this marriage isn’t possible now as they can’t take risk and I was not letting their daughter get over all this by trying to call her or wanting to meet her. Her parents didn’t even let me see her face for the last time as it would make her weak and the next groom won’t be able to accept that or the new family might get some or the other information about this.

I have an advice to the new generation, you are lucky if you get a true love and you get attached and it runs this long, and you do achieve everything with time in that love but do take that till marriage by seeing that, is your partner strong enough to deal anything that comes in the way. In my case I had everything in my favor but girl herself was weak enough to stand and decide that nothing will happen as our love is strong, more over I even don’t know how she and her family changed her face completely after this and threw me as a rat who was caged for years in the name of “All this is for your well-being, son”

Some stories are written in heaven, as this was. We met as God made us meet, we grew together, we loved each other, we fought, we solved, we cared, we wanted to live together forever, but our horoscopes and families came between us, and this relationship died forever which was considered the best relationship among the people who knew us.

She and her family blocked me from everywhere as they were robots who were pretending to be humans with no emotions attached. I don’t know how she is today, how happy she would be tomorrow, how would her new husband be with whom she could have babies and make her parents proud and happy, was this sacrifice done to make the parents happy, or was it to make sure that the future is secured, or she didn’t even loved me ever as I never knew that she would be so strong to say No, I don’t want to see your face, were 5 years nothing for her, or she really didn’t trust my love, or her parents have already found a groom for her who could easily replace me as the way her family reacted made me feel that these people don’t stay alive by the pump of heart. An unknown Priest/Pandit who didn’t even know that we were together from last 5 years had decided our fate as in India people follow what others say but they don’t have the courage to make their own fate. Typical Indian parents have the mentality that what will happen if my daughter got divorced after marriage, how will the society see us, what image my daughter will have after that, what will happen if my daughter doesn’t get babies. How will we face the world?

It’s true, no matter you are happy or sad but Indian weddings do demand all this. People who show courage, god does help them.

I think in my case neither did my horoscope matched with her nor did the love was strong from her side.

I really lost the faith in love after this and also I hate the girls who promise a hell lot of things when in love and leave when the road is uneven.

I don’t know how anyone can live happy by hurting someone to this extent, was 5 years less to judge the love, compatibility…no relationship comes with only love and smoothness, it did have issues, fights, anger into it. But if you really loved anyone you should be ready to face all the issues and solve it.

Marriages don’t work on horoscopes; it’s your will, courage, strength and ability to handle situations together. Even the horoscopes matching 100% doesn’t give the surety that it will work or not.

People who run away from the problems and can never handle any situations. All marriages whether love, arranged, or 100% matched can never tell you that it will work or not.

God created Adam and Eve, but if they had got stuck into their future predictions than this earth won’t have reached up till here.

The learning which I got from all this is that don’t get attached with humans and don’t find your strength with them as they might not be thinking same as you. Don’t love humans more than yourself, all show their real face with time and situations. Dogs are far better companions for life as they won’t leave you ever.