Who Is The Best Judge?

We, humans listen and care for public opinion to such a great extent that we tend to suppress our inner voice on so many occasions.later when we see the outcome of our decision then we regret that oh I had got this thought but dint pay any heed to it. We listen to ten people and get confused and lose sleep over it . So don’t u think that all our answers lie within us and we are on the right path when we listen to our heart. It seems we trust someone more than ourselves, so where is our self worth?

We have seen people who fear religious outburst,societal pressure in the form of what people will say,family control and other factors so much that they live life according to people s likes and dislikes. The total individuality is lost and you curb your own freedom, you put your self on the Back burner and then wonder what s going wrong in my life? Why am I singled out and where has this stress come from? The community pressure and the circle you move in has an unspoken agenda that we conform to . Even a slight deviation and the guilt fear creeps in making us vulnerable to follow the norms whether we agree or not . In recent times there is a trend that’s slowly and surely moving towards love yourself first and not doing so you aren’t being selfish. Its to understand that if we take care of ourselves mentally, physically,emotionally we are in a better position to take better care of our loved ones. We don’t need to sacrifice our needs, wants, desires and comfort for others with the thought that I’m unselfish and love you more than myself.

It's a given in our society that if all are wearing a particular dress we need to do the same or will look a misfit Yes in certain situation it calls for like in religious ceremony , death or a marriage we need to dress according to the occasion . But not every time there are places we can use our discretion to wear what we feel like wearing. Then after crossing a certain age we all dye our hair because all our friends dye. No but if someone doesn’t want to dye or cannot dye due to some problem , yet there will be your we’ll wishers who first make fun of your decision and then proceed to give you valuable advice to color them and if you don’t comply with their wishes they try to convince you somehow. If you are strong all this can be overridden or if you succumb to the pressure you get a pat on the back when you’ve followed their norms. Even in eating habits people are all armed with what’s good for you or not and how you have to follow a strict diet to reduce and again there are people who make fun of the very obese people but forget to be humane and understand that overweight an be due to a number of factors.How the other person is feeling is not their concern, they may have felt low ,depressed and out of place, but they’ve said what they wanted to say and go on with their life not least affected and concerned.

On the other hand how they think whom you’ve criticized have they ever tried to find out? They too have a lot of advice but keep to them self respecting the other person s decision.To comply or not is a very personal decision.