Is Parenting A Conundrum?

                    Nitin a handsome, qualified, talented youth and the only son of educated parents turned to substance addiction. He revealed the reasons for that extreme step to me as he is a distant relation of mine. Though his reasoning is not acceptable in totality, we have to agree to a certain extent that the family atmosphere and social environment can greatly influence in shaping one’s character during growing age,

    The childhood of Nitin was in a joint family of three brothers with misunderstandings among them often and frequent altercation among lady folks. These incidents many times used to happen in front of growing children and remained as disturbing memories of Nitin throughout his life time.

   By the time he grew up boyhood, Nitin was out from joint family and was with parents in an independence house, of course, a small one. His parents who were youthful still, used to turn to privacy to meet their biological needs. Unfortunately, Nitin happened to see accidentally their sexual acts many times. These sights corrupted his young mind with despicable thoughts towards parents.

   “Time and tide wait for none”. Nitin grew up and entered into mid-teens. To his bad luck, I would say his cousin sister (Uncle’s daughter) a smart and late teen girl joined his family, as she took job in Bangalore. Her relationship with Nitin grew closer day by day and she started exploiting his adolescence to meet her sexual desires secretly. These objectionable acts of her made Nitin the guilty conscience as he turned to a matured youth.

 The disturbing memories of child hood, despicable thoughts of boyhood besides the guilt feelings of adolescence kept popping up in his mind in series making him lunatic. To come out of this trauma and to get hallucinated he took to drug abuse. To his unhinged mind, the insistence and encouragement by cohorts of fine arts college where he was studying made Nitin a substance addict.    

  This is not the end of the story. Besides the drug menace, the cropped up problems in the family like sudden demise of his mother, financial problems etc. made Nitin to take the extreme step. One day he was hanging from the rope tied to the fan of the room bidding adieu to this world.

  What we should say for this real-life story

Nitin was a victim of impaired parenthood or victim of circumstances or both?